This is a Journey to Justice and Equality

My mother is a retired elementary school teacher. Unfortunately, she had to retire after working 20 years as a teacher because she became seriously ill. I remember once asking her: what have you learned in those 20 years? her response was: we try to teach children important lessons in life, when in fact it is they, the children, who teach us the most important lessons in life.

This is a brief introduction to the current situation where my three year old son has been sexually abused and kidnapped by his own mother. Also a space to expose German institutions on how they deal with cases of sexual assault, especially against minors.

Sadly, my little child has been a victim of the terrible crime of sexual abuse and despite multiple efforts to get the German authorities to act, my requests and pleas have fallen on deaf ears and the German bureaucracy. German authorities have failed in their role to protect the victims and have also failed miserably to deliver justice. Instead of receiving support, I have been persecuted, prosecuted, falsely accused, and deprived of what is most important to me right now: my right to protect my child. This more than a year after the first abuse was reported.

It is for this reason that I have taken on the task of documenting my dealings and interactions with German institutions such as the youth welfare office (Jugendamt -Wartburgkreis in Bad Salzungen, Thuringia), the public prosecutor's office (in Meiningen, Thuringia), police departments ( BAO FOKUS, in Offenbach, Hessen, the police station in Bad Orb, Hessen, and the police station in Marktheidenfeld, Bavaria), the family court (in Bad Salzungen, Thuringia) and the children's clinic of the university hospital in Würzburg, Bavaria (Universitätsklinikum Würzburg: Kinderklinik und Poliklinik or UKW) to expose not only their inaction but their malice to the point of lying to protect the abuser. This is with the hope that it does not happen to another person who is a victim of sexual abuse in Germany or any other part of the world.

Please note: This is not a witch-hunt but rather a much needed investigation into the dealings of such institutions and reporting any instances of corruption, abuse of authority, bias, discrimination, negligence, or conflict of interest. After all, they have been entrusted with the protection and care of our greatest treasures, our children.

Due to my direct work with parents and children of different nationalities, socioeconomic status, cultures and marital status, I have witnessed different irregularities in the handling of child custody and justice.

It is reasonable to assume that when there is a separation, divorce, or criminal investigation involving children, the mother is given a preferential treatment or gets the “upper hand” meaning being in a position of advantage, power, or control over the situation (please note that I am not stating that the law gives mothers additional rights or a preferential treatment regarding the child and the outcomes, but laws are applied by humans that could base their rulings on emotions rather than facts), while the father is relegated to a position of secondary caretaker or is ignored despite having strong/solid evidence.

This has been the accepted norm for decades, mothers were considered the only ones suitable and competent to naturally care for the child/ren, incapable of abusing their own children while fathers were seen as irresponsible or incapable of caring for a child. This is not only wrong but false.

Scientific research supports the concept that love, care and attachment to the father are equally important for the general well-being (mental, cognitive, physical, social and emotional) of the child, equivalent to the relationship with the mother, and fathers… well, we also can do it alone.

I find it disappointing and condescending that I, as a man, as a father, have to prove in court that I am competent and suitable to care for my child, while the mother is, by default, in charge of dictating when and how I can see my son, all based on her personal feelings and mood. And this despite the fact that there are two criminal cases open against her for the crime of sexual abuse of minors.

As background to this story, I am a single father, this case involves one of my children, a beautiful three-year-old boy whom I call “el pequeño” (the little one in Spanish), who suddenly found himself in the middle of a horror story that includes abuse/kidnapping and is currently deprived of any contact with his father (me).

Very often we talk about equality, about how hard we as a society strive to be equal regardless of personal differences. We believe in shaping a world where, as Rev. Martin Luther King Jr. said, “people will not be judged by the color of their skin (I venture to say that we could also include gender, beliefs, age, political affiliation, country of origin, education, and so on) but by the content of their character”. I ask the authorities to investigate and convict this person and not give her privileged treatment just because she is a woman. She has abused a minor.

I am currently working with children. I have extensive training and education regarding child development and pedagogy. But the most important knowledge I've gained comes from being a parent. I am not perfect, I am just a father seeking justice… And I will not stop until it has been accomplished.